The Subject of women’s self esteem is some what delicate. If people say the wrong thing to a woman, they can destroy her spirit. If they say the right thing, a woman might have been so down trodden by others that the right seed finds no fertile ground in which to grow. Perhaps what women need to realize is that the subject matter has nothing to do with them, personally, but comes from sources outside themselves. If women can ponder that, their sense of self worth might improve drastically.
Society, Part I
The Mayo Clinic suggests women identify troubling situations to improve their self esteem. These can include a life change, such as the empty nest syndrome, which often seems to come simultaneously with the change of life, home or work crises, or a spat with a loved one. In these instances, a woman’s self image is challenged by other people when she is made to feel she is no longer sexy, or her motherhood is over, or someone at work does a better job on a project than she. It isn’t about the woman, personally, but changes that come along so she can grow into another phase of her womanhood.
Society, Part II
Becoming aware of thoughts and beliefs is another suggestion the Mayo Clinic says will help women improve their self esteem. How many times have women been told to eat a healthy diet and work out to prevent serious health concerns? Americans have been asked to pay the piper for their unfortunate use of fast foods, couch potatoes and driving to the store instead of walking. Women are made to believe they are bad mothers and wives when they come home from nine hours at work with KFC instead of whipping up a nutritious meal, which will take another hour on their feet.
Women do recognize the problem, and they do move to correct it, but they are still being made to feel inadequate from outside sources. More Society Nor are women made to feel full of self esteem when they see news clips of thousand pound people being airlifted to a doctor, magazine covers at the checkout of two pound models, or men’s magazines with a cover of a handsome set of six pack abs and a Schwarzenegger chest.
Ladies, these people have to sell magazines in order to make their mortgage, so they hit women where it hurts the most: their self confidence. Again, an outside source is influencing women to think they are inadequate. Challenge The challenge to women’s self image is to recognize what influences it and move to change it. Do women believe, deep inside, that they are worth more than that? A well-written affirmation, often repeated during the day, would be a good beginning. Identify the sources of the problem and turn them into support instead of denigration.
Women might not suffer low self esteem if they recognized that the healthy lifestyle is improving their mind and body and that they are capable of living life to the fullest. Ladies could transform those home and work crises into strengths with affirmations or finding a different angle from which to tackle, and overcome, the crisis. Accentuate the Positive If women’s belief systems have been shaped by outside sources, then label them differently.
Recognizing that it truly is not personal, women could then become stronger and more confident when they label a potentially self esteem-lowering source to its true level. Remaining positive and forgiving of self, avoiding denigrating the self and focusing on approving of the self will go a long way towards lifting that self image.
To A More Productive Life,